When was the first time you really felt like a grown up (if ever)?
I was always a homebody and my mom always told us to be in the house by dark when we were little. One thing you never wanted to hear is her calling your name ever or you were in big trouble. When we got older she got more lenient and we could stay out a little later like 9 or 9:30 unless we were going to church or something then there was no time limit cause church was like a marathon. This one Wednesday night I had just turned 18 in September I was feeling so big and grownup like I could do anything I wanted to I had met this man who was pursuing me really hard I invited him to church and he came my naïve behind thinking he is really into me this lying 35 claiming he is 22 then 28 years old man had my 17 then 18 years old nose wide open. I got out of church and me being all grown now was going to walk home with him at night it was a great walk even if it cast me my senior activities due to the child that came from me being so damn grown. You live and you learn.
What’s something you would attempt if you were guaranteed not to fail.
I would start a nonprofit for the well-being of small children five and under to teach them how to learn adapt and grow in an environment that is not geared toward helping them succeed in life but is more geared toward showing them how to grow up too fast and navigate the world as adults before they are even able to speak I would create programs that would help them utilize their small developing adventurous imaginations so that they are able to still be children but also be the great minds of the future without having a bunch of responsibility and a bunch of unnecessary attitude around them they would have different approaches to education and learning as well as different approaches to growth and development with a myriad of developmental bases of learning where it’s fun but also Educational with different kinds of motivational people in their environment who also have a heart for children and I would advocate for them on every level whether it’s food games education athletics or just as simple as communication between children and parents activism is more than just marching and talking it is also real life action and that is what I would do if I knew I would not fail.
I have always been a dream or a person that likes to write and a person who likes to think and then I became a person who likes to speak so the things that I would write down I started seeing them aloud and watching them happen around me. I would always see things like a person who didn’t agree with what I saw or what I had said say it’s not because of what I said that this thing happened but I knew that it was because of what I said that it came about because of the sequence of events that took place that made it happen and it would make me chuckle because I didn’t knew that how it happened the process of what happened wouldn’t have happened like that if I hadn’t said it like that so I became a habit of mine to speak it into existence and watch it happen I’ve always been an optimist and I enjoy being an optimist because things always work out in my favor even when it doesn’t look like it. There’s always room for a win and since I’m a winner I always win in the end so my hobby is winning and writing about what I won. Whether that is weight loss Money understanding or peace of mind there are always little wins in everything.
What would you do if you lost all your possessions?
I have had to start over again so many times because of circumstances and life choices I lost all my stuff but I got back up and started over again got in a bad relationship and that guy was abusive and ripped up all my stuff and scared me in the process so I ended up in a shelter lost all my stuff a second time but what I would do is build myself up again getting my stuff a little by little
What details of your life could you pay more attention to?
Sometimes the people in my life who I find myself sharing my life with or not the best company the little details that mattered to me the most are not held in high esteem, and it seems to bring my vibration down like if I want to celebrate an accomplishment that I feel is important You would think someone who is supposed to be your biggest cheerleader would also be your biggest fan as well but sometimes that person is only there to be your devils advocate, and be the one to always try and tell you that they are the realist or the pessimist in your life And it doesn’t help you get anywhere when you just want somebody to talk to you instead of constantly give you that underhanded backhand that you wasn’t looking for or that you didn’t need
I have learned to pay attention to those small details, and no win to stop giving details to people who were only give back. I needed rhetoric instead of needed conversation. I now talk to people who give me considerate confirmation even if it’s constructive criticism, the objective word is constructive, and it’s necessary not unnecessary always giving with love not sarcasm and I can appreciate that.
In what ways does hard work make you feel fulfilled?
I have always been taught work smarter, not harder so and everything that I have done I have always found ways to optimize my productivity with out, overdoing it on my body since I love working with children, the goal is to not over, lift them or strain myself in the process of caring for them. This way I am teaching them effort. Oh, responsibility for their bodies and their brains without hurting themselves, and using their smarts more than their ability to use their muscles your brain is the most powerful muscle in your body and using that is the greatest thing I believe you can use to accomplish things in life, along with common sense.
What aspects of your cultural heritage are you most proud of or interested in?
The aspects of my cultural heritage that I am most proud of is how we come together when something needs to be done, and we put our strength in our numbers and accomplish the goal that we are seeking out to accomplish. How we manage to put our differences aside and really focus on, the goal at hand to make whatever is the issue at hand to go away even if we all go our separate ways after that, we will stand together on that issue to make it a top priority to get it accomplished no matter how long it takes no matter how much it may Keep us from doing something else at that moment it is the most important thing that needs to be accomplished, and we will do any and everything to accomplish it until it is done for example, in Alabama when the man was being attacked everyone stopped what they were doing at that moment to go and Protect him. It didn’t matter what was happening around him or them. They stopped another example when they made Rosa parks get off the bus and was disrespectful to her. We stopped riding the bus and it took over a year, but we persisted to make it happen, so that they would give us equal rights to ride the bus freely and fairly another example is when we want it to be able to vote we stopped, allowing them to treat us any other kind of way, and we’ve been together to accomplish, making it a nationwide goal to not work with anything they have going on to make it happen every time when it’s something that we all want we will stand together to make it happen that is something that I love about my culture. We still are that way just in a different way now, and I appreciate that inner strength that we have to do that in order to accomplish the goal of having us matter things like that or what keeps us moving forward And all of us working together we still have a long way to go, but I do appreciate that about my culture, even though it takes an immense strength and something major to happen for us to do that the fact that we will do it I love it about us And I appreciate my culture for it
I have always wanted to be remembered as someone who helped and made a difference in my families life that I have memories to cherish with my kids, grandkids and great grands along with my brothers and sisters that I was a generous person and I built a legacy that would help not only children grow into productive human beings, but also would build well for generations to come so that my family would have a family business that was surrounded by mental health, togetherness the village concept of raising children, and the connectedness of having one generation after another know each other, and be together. This is not what I see in my family society, and the world at large, my fear is that we will become a technological society and forget what it feels like to have that connection with each other to where we understand how each other thinks how each other is dependent on one another and able to function in this world so that you understand subliminal messages you understand the simple things I decide I you understand when you’re talking too much you understand when you go out to eat, you don’t act a monkey These things are important attributes of human life and it is so important for me to be able to be there to show my grandchildren and great grands how to be great human beings. These are my fears of the future because so much time has been lost, and it seems this new thought of being a working person has taken the place of being a family unit People don’t understand how important family is and what family brings you that kind of stability. Love care, unconditional love, especially when it’s your own child so this is my goal is for the future because no matter what happens in my life I know in my heart, that I will always have the love of my brothers and sisters, my nieces and nephews, because at the end of the day, we literally grew up together and I wouldn’t ever abandon them for any reason or my children no matter what they do, even if they’re hardhead as hell I still with it because I was taught better. Thank God for a mother, who prayed and still does.
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One thing I do not spend a lot of time on is self-care and time meditating for myself I spend a lot of time wondering where I should have went right when I went wrong instead of doing self evaluation’s and healing I think I would do better spending my time on self-care and self healing, and not worrying about the little hurdles that come toward me that I know, I have no power over that they are there for a reason and not to make a mountain out of a mole hill because some people are just broken and it is not my responsibility to fix them. I have to work on me and once I’m done working on me the right vibes and intensity and person will enter my life who matches my vibe, and since I know that I have to focus on what brings me peace and happiness and exit out of anything that takes away my peace and my happiness so that I stay on track and I move forward with my best life so these are things that I’ve learned and that I am working on every day sometimes I fall down but I always get back up. It might not be quick, but it is getting faster and faster.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
I have always been around people who have wisdom beyond their years who would always tell me never second guess the first thought you had about a situation that you found yourself in. That feeling that you get when you know something isn’t right but you try to justify it And make it be right and things just keep going wrong and getting worse the longer you try to stay in it or try to keep doing it that person that you don’t want to meet your family or that venture that you want to keep a secret because you know it is a get rich quick scheme that will probably not work. Your first mind tells you don’t do it but you push that aside and listen to the person in your ear who is saying it’ll be OK and then all fails and you realize I should’ve follow my first mind, so I realize now that first voice that I hear is always the right one to listen to because if no one is going to look out for me, I will always look out for me and I know me best one thing I know for sure is, I won’t fail me no matter what is going on and I always have fun with me even when no one else is around.