If you had to give up one word that you use regularly, what would it be?
I have several conversations with a certain person during the day and as I am talking to this person, I am always saying in my mind. In my thoughts when I walk away this person is so stupid. Why do they think like this? That was stupid this is stupid. Why do they act so stupid? Why is there behavior so stupid Why do I put up with this stupid Ness of this person every other word out of my mouth when dealing with this person is always the word stupid coming out of my mouth or a certain instances coming out of my mouth about this person makes me think that I am becoming stupid from dealing with them and I keep thinking that you are a product of the company that you keep so I always try to rephrase my thoughts and cautioned myself to put a cap on what I’m about to say or do so that I do not let that word stupid come out of my mouth because I know the more that I said the more I am bringing that back into my life so that is the one word there are others, but that is the main word that I really am working on getting rid of out of my thoughts out of my mouth and out of my heart when it comes to things that happen during my daily routine.
The first room has large pictures of family history going back to grandparents and great grandparents lots of memorabilia with memories of adventures and get together’s of family, vacations and time spent learning about our history and things that we learned traits that we got from our elders it has Things that were passed down from our family members that was important to them that they wanted us to have so that they can be remembered and have a stake in our future. It has music, rooms and dining room with a record player that actually still plays records it has a long dining room table for Gas to come over and eat and sit down and talk to us about growing up With our parents and cousins and friends, it has TVs and DVD players, CDs and tape cassettes with our family members voices on it from times they were telling stories and let us sit around and talk about things that were important to us even when they didn’t want to hear it, and they would save us it has our school awards and our memory verses our time capsules that we would bury, and years later, the grandkids dug up that we put inside the mantle so that they could see it and remember the fun things we used to do when playing outside, making mud pies it has our bedrooms that has changed over the years to show how our growth and development has sprung up into new adventures to wear now when the grandkids come over and great grands, they see how their stuff has been added to the room so that they know it is their place also it has been modernize with still a playground in the backyard they have a game room, TV room, work room, and a indoor garden so that they can play with it and they can tell their kids how they used to play on those very swings and they’ve been kept up so that when they got old enough they can play with them too it has books on the shelves and different little trinkets that has been there for years that has shown them how they have come from a long line of thinkers and entrepreneurs, who always grow with the times, and how they are expected to do the same, even if they go their own way, they are still expected to achieve in one way or another it has beautiful furniture clean walls and really nice carpet in certain areas and work floors and others. Everybody has a space where they know what to do when they come in the door and how to cook all the utensils are put in a neat and orderly fashion, and it’s always fun around their house because they know that at grandmom’s house they are always welcome so in my house it is always home.
When my grandchild was born, and I found out that he was healthy and safe that made me the happiest brought tears of joy to my eyes knowing that my daughter was OK and my grandbaby was here and one piece I felt good I felt happy I felt like the world was right.
I blog because I have something to say and many others can’t say how they really feel out of fear of cancel culture and social media as well as shame.
I speak for black and brown people who are always on the low end of things and don’t know how to catch a break. To let them know someone knows what they’re going through and can relate
While also expressing my own life’s journey triumphs and trials, while going through it to let people know you can make it through and how fun it is to make it through.
When I’m in my room and I’m able to think about the things I accomplished during the day and I’m able to meditate and bring peace before I go to sleep and think about what my day brought, and how I made it through all of it and then to see what is to come And begin to manifest what is next for the future? It brings me a calm and makes me smile every time before I lay down, take my deep breath and breathe in all the gratitude that I feel for having made it through one more day, knowing that what a have just manifest it is already on the way And I feel happy and grateful right before I go to sleep.
My city of the future, what reside with men who want sons and daughters to grow up and be respectable, loving, caring, supportive, and intelligent, who believe in family and community it would have women who believe in the growth and development of strong minds great atmospheres and technology of the future it would also have schools that employ scientists history buffs a strong black community stores that accentuate health and healthy living also cooking classes with trades to help kids who don’t have a desire to go to college develop skills to develop into things that will help our city stay revolving. My city of the future would also have recycling that pays and replenishes needed accessories in our city. It would have virtual reality, community centers, hospitals of the future, with the best technology and doctors in it. Fitness centers, churches, and activity centers. It would be an all inclusive, helpful, hopeful, and pleasant place to be.
What strategies do you use to increase comfort in your daily life?
I use meditation to help clear my mind and think about my goals for the day and visualize my future plans relaxation to help me take the weight off from the things I’ve done during the day and filter out and work through whatever it is that I needed to redo
The first surgery I had was minor surgery as a child. I walked past a shard of glass from a large, broken picture window. I sliced my leg along my calf leg on the left side. I had to be rushed to the hospital. I also had hand surgery from letting a fire cracker blow up in my hand. Another minor surgery where stitches were needed.This is before the time of numbing the area so I had to get several stitches and the held down in order to stay still. My next surgery, was when I had been in labor for two days. My son was being very stubborn and not wanting to get in the right position so my labor was being prolong until the core began to wrap around his neck from all of his turning so I ended up having to have a C-section on an emergency my next surgery after that was a planned surgery my daughter then a third C-section after that, I had to have a thyroidectomy because my thyroid was not functioning correctly, and had created a mass, the size of a potato in my throat (a goiter) and another mass the size of a football in my chest, which was causing me to not be able to breathe correctly and have fainting spells often so I had to have open chest surgery and throat surgery. After that one, I had a total hysterectomy because of problems with my uterus and anemia and bleeding problems. My body has been through quite a bit, but I would say it has all been worth it.
Spirituality is very important to me because God is life.
God has made my life worthwhile and worth living things haven’t always been easy but with him by my side, I’ve been able to get through a lot and not go over the deep end. I’ve had some very traumatic events in my life. I didn’t know what was coming next or what to do, but my faith and my belief kept me going. There’s so much more I could say, but I want him with this God is everything..
One of my most favorite moments was watching my daughter get the presidents award. The award hat President Obama‘s signature on it. She had worked really hard in school, and had really good grades, and for that she was rewarded with the presidents award. she got mini awards like the honor roll and perfect attendance Being talked about a lot. But that was one of many proud parent moment.
The struggle is now not forever 